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“It is beautiful, it is endless, it is full and yet seems empty. It hurts us.”
― Jackson Pearce 

Sadness, hopelessness, and worthlessness,  a negative feeling associated with depression. It is clinically defined as a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. People experience depression in different ways. It may interfere with your daily work, resulting in lost time and lower productivity. It also can influence relationships and some chronic health conditions.

Just a while ago, I have read in social media that another Overseas Foreign Worker in Hongkong committed suicide, the culprit, depression. Lack of family support, being alone, not feeling loved and other life misfortunes are the major reason for her death. Sad to say, it is most common to Overseas Foreign Workers like me. To feel alone, sad and most of the time not being connected to the reasons for your hard work, your loved ones. It became hurtful up to the point that you really feel empty inside.

Being unhappy isn’t the same as being depressed. You may have a terrible day that makes you sad yet still, it goes away after you go back to your daily routine. There could be a certain moment in your life where all of a sudden, bad things and misfortunes happened where you cannot cope with the hurtful feelings. You started feeling depressed and even you tried so hard, the feeling won’t go away. Specifically, you are depressed if:

Warning Signs of Depression

  1. Hopelessness – A feeling where seems nothing to work out, a dead end.
  2. Lost of interest – A feeling where you don’t want to connect to someone or to some things.
  3. Increased fatigue and sleep problems – A situation where you lack the energy to do work and the pattern of sleep became irregular.
  4. Anxiety – An unknown fear.
  5. Changes in appetite and weight – A lost or gain of weight to an unhealthy degree.
  6. Uncontrollable Emotions – A roller coaster of emotion, a sudden burst of anger the next crying uncontrollably.
  7. Looking at Death – Contemplating suicide.

Coping with Depression

You have to know that your will power and energy are essential to jump-start the process because recovering from depression isn’t quick or easy. You should take your first step by:

Tip 1: Be Connected

 When you’re depressed, the tendency is to withdraw and isolate so connecting to even close family members and friends can be tough. The good thing is the easily accessible presence of social media. If you have a social media account all you have to do is “connect with the right people to talk with regarding your situation”. You don’t need an expert to give you advice, all you need is someone to listen and understand whatever you are going through that’s why there are “friends” who can help. I am not an expert, and I may not be your friend but I am willing to listen and understand your feelings. If you are a religious person and believe that a “priest or a pastor” of your community can be of help, try connecting with them, believe me, they will be a big help instead of trouble.

Tip 2: Do things that relax and uplift your spirit.

Now is the perfect time in doing things you love to do.  It can be cooking, baking, gardening or any hobby which relaxes, energized you and renewing it all now is the perfect timing.  You can visit a park near you, especially in the morning when the breeze of air is fresh.  You can watch your favorite movie of all time matched with popcorn and soda.  There are no limits on what you can do as long as it is invigorating to you. What I only meant is , try going out of your “depression bed” and take a simple step of moving and grooving. 

Tip 3:  Get a dose of sunlight and proper diet.

Do you know that studies have shown a link between vitamin D deficiency and depression? Researchers behind a 2013 meta-analysis noticed those study participants with depression also had low vitamin D levels. The same analysis found that, statistically, people with low vitamin D were at a much greater risk of depression. 

Sun exposure and diet filled with naturally rich in vitamin D are essential. Eat more of these great natural sources of vitamin D to increase your intake:

  • salmon
  • mackerel
  • other fatty fish
  • fish liver oils
  • animal fats
  • vitamin D fortified food products, like orange juice and cereal

Tip 4:  Look for a community, a club or a social group.

Being part of something about yourself and your daily life will help cope with your depression.  It can be a religious, social, art or any group of your choice as long as you feel comfortable.  Of course, at first, it is not easy looking for a community but once you find one, it will get you going even not noticing that you are too busy to be depressed.  If you believe in God, try going to a religious gathering even without an invitation because for sure they will welcome all those who come to God for healing.  

Tip 5: Try to get professional help.

If you think that self-help is not effective to reduce or even heal your depression, it’s time to seek professional help.  Needing additional help doesn’t mean you’re weak it only means that you are motivated still to help yourself.  

All things on earth are temporary and it is important to spend our life with a positive outlook and joyful expression.  Everyone wants a happy ending so make an effort to have a “joyful journey in life “.  







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